Is it appropriate to divide ashes among family and friends?

Yes, many families choose to share the ashes of a loved one, and it is completely legal to divide cremains into multiple containers. Your funeral planner can assist you in arranging this. If you plan to divide cremains on your own, at a later time, there are some practical considerations to remember.
First, to prevent disagreement, make sure you are adhering to the wishes of the person responsible for the disposition of remains. This would be the family member legally designated as next of kin or the person named executor of the will.
If you will be transporting the ashes to another state or country, check the regulations at your destination as well as rules on transporting cremains. Many airlines and delivery services have guidelines for packing and labeling.
When it comes to the physical duty of separating ashes, some find it a comforting act of closure while others might be emotionally overwhelmed. A good solution is to put one person in charge of the task and invite others to be present.
The cremation process renders ashes sterile and non-toxic, so they are safe to handle. If you wish to avoid direct contact, wear a face mask and disposable gloves. Work indoors, on a flat surface with paper or plastic covering your work space, and reduce any air flow that might disturb the ashes. A small spoon and funnel can be used to transfer ashes into small keepsake urns or jewelry.
Sharing one person’s ashes among a group of people is done for many meaningful reasons. Siblings, children and close friends might all want a physical reminder of the person they love. Some families are spread across great distances, and dividing ashes can be a compromise when family members disagree on a final resting place. There are often different religious or memorial traditions within a family, and this allows for multiple celebrations of life. Your loved one may even have made it known they want their ashes to be shared or scattered in multiple locations.
Once ashes have been divided and sealed into jewelry, there are no federal, state or local laws that restrict the wearing of that jewelry. Likewise, you are free to store, display or travel with a small keepsake urn containing cremains. Today there are many traditional and not-so-traditional ways to preserve a small amount of a loved one’s ashes. Companies can press ashes into gemstones, and artisans can incorporate ashes into paintings, blown glass or even vinyl records as lasting mementos.
The team at La Paloma Funeral Services is here to help. For those who wish some, or all, of their loved one’s ashes to be scattered on private land in Southern Utah’s natural landscape, we offer an ash scattering service and memorial video.










